Eggshell Parenting, Pola Asuh yang Harus Dihindari Orangtua

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Note, this is the parenting pattern that parents should avoid.

Eggshell Parenting, Pola Asuh yang Harus Dihindari Orangtua

Dream – Every parent has their own unique way of educating their children. Although the believed and applied parenting styles are diverse, the main goal is to build the character of their beloved child to become a good individual and eventually independent.

As parents, we know for sure that every parenting pattern definitely has an impact on children's behavior, both positive and negative. Therefore, it is necessary to know what kind of parenting pattern is suitable to be applied to children, especially those that should be avoided.

In a survey conducted among many parents regarding parenting styles to avoid, there is one well-known parenting pattern that should be avoided. Yup, eggshell parenting or the eggshell parenting style. It is important for fathers and mothers to know about this particular parenting style, which should be avoided.

What is Eggshell Parenting?

Eggshell parenting is an authoritarian parenting style that has been around since the 1960s. It describes the situation where children feel like they are "walking on eggshells" due to inconsistent and unpredictable behavior from their parents, who sometimes express their emotions in a harsh manner.

Translation: "An example of this parenting pattern is when a child fails to do something they are supposed to do, they receive harsh reprimands from their parents. When the child eventually does something according to their parents' instructions, they again receive harsh reprimands because their way of doing it does not meet the parents' expectations. It is this ever-changing expectation of parents that makes children feel incapable of doing anything correctly."

"When we are around unpredictable and easily changeable people, we feel like we are walking carefully to avoid breaking the shell beneath us, even though this is an impossible task," said Kelsey M. Latimer, Ph.D., a pediatric psychologist in Texas."

The cause of Eggshell Parenting.

Most parents who practice eggshell parenting may not mean so. Although there is no exact explanation, Kelsey M. Latimer identified several common reasons behind such habits.

According to him, many parents react in this way because they unconsciously choose this pattern of reaction. Some of them may indeed have a rather irritable or impatient nature, making it difficult to control emotions in a healthy way. Mood disorders or personality disorders can also be the cause of eggshell parenting.

In addition, Kelsey also stated that this habit may be a learned behavior and a result of emotional wounds acquired from the childhood of the parents. So, most parents who practice eggshell parenting repeat the parenting patterns they experienced in their own families.

The translation of the text "Dampak Buruk" from Bahasa to English while preserving any HTML tags is "Negative Impact".

As we know, every parenting style will have an impact on children's behavior, including eggshell parenting. One of the impacts of this parenting style is an excessive sense of alertness experienced by children. They will tend to respond to something with fight, flight, and freeze because they rarely feel safe, creating mentally and emotionally unhealthy stress conditions.

The long-term effects of this parenting style include emotional exhaustion, which later leads to depression, being easily offended, and distancing oneself from many people. Children also lose self-confidence and constantly feel insecure due to the instability of the parenting style they receive.

Besides that, the suspicion and anxiety caused by eggshell parenting can result in distrust. Children will have difficulty trusting people, which then increases feelings of anxiety and depression.

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How to Restore Children's Trust Due to Eggshell Parenting

To improve relationships with children, Kelsey highlights the importance of self-awareness, sincere apologies, and behavioral changes for parents who are aware of their unhealthy behaviors.

"Apologizing sincerely is an opportunity for parents to reconnect with their children and strengthen the parent-child bond," said Kelsey. Parents also need to engage in conversations with their children, giving them the opportunity to express their feelings.

As a note, parents should always remember not to continuously repeat the same mistakes or parenting patterns, as this will undermine the meaning of the apology. If parents still have difficulty managing their emotions, consult with a psychologist to avoid unwanted events from happening again. Report by Marha Adani Putri / Source: FatherlyDream.co.id is available on WhatsApp Channel, follow to get the latest information on this link https://bit.ly/DreamcoidWAChannel

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