High Expectations of Parents on Children, Negative or Positive?

Ekspektasi Tinggi Orangtua Pada Anak, Negatif atau Positif?

"High Expectations of Parents for Children, Negative or Positive?"

Dream - Having children makes parents have the spirit of life and continue to strive to become better individuals. Not only that, parents also tend to have high expectations for their children. Whatever the expectations are, it can have a significant impact on the child's psychological well-being.

High Expectations of Parents on Children, Negative or Positive?

It can have both positive and negative effects. Saskhya Aulia Prima, a family psychologist, explains that it is far for parents to have expectations for their children.

"It is not wrong for parents to have expectations for their children, in fact, expectations can have a positive impact. Healthy expectations provide room for exploration and allow children's opinions to be communicated well, while prioritizing the interests of the child as the main focus."
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Deliver the expectations that exist for the child, and show a great sense of care for their future. This is very important to communicate so that the child knows and also opens up opportunities for discussion.

"When parents do not communicate their expectations, children may feel that they are not receiving enough attention from their parents."

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Show also the parents' trust in the child's abilities. Saskhya exemplifies, when parents expect their child to have a bachelor's degree, it can be a motivation for the child to achieve that.

Negative Impact of Expectations

"Parents' hopes or expectations for their children can also have the opposite effect if this is not communicated in a healthy way."

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Especially if parents assume that the child already knows the parents' desires and must do them, then close the door to discussion. "Children cannot develop their abilities to the fullest because they are trying to meet the parents' expectations that are not in line with their own. The child's self-confidence can decrease because they always judge themselves as failing to meet the parents' expectations," said Saskhya.

When parents have such high expectations for their children, it can become a burden for them, especially if it doesn't align with their abilities and talents. This can actually strain the relationship between the child and the parents.

"Untuk itu Sashkya reminds parents to continue to strive to have discussions with their children. Strive to learn to find a middle ground, because in the end, the child will become an individual who must determine their own path in life. 'Being a parent is a learning process that will never end. Learning to communicate, manage expectations, and accept the fact that in the end, the child has the right to choose their own path,' message from Saskhya. Source: IG @saskhya"

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