Children Need to Be Tempered by Difficulties, Parents Shouldn't Always Help

Children Need to Be Tempered by Difficulties, Parents Shouldn't Always Help, You Know!

Dream - Seeing a child having to work hard to complete school tasks, staying up late at night, and then having to go to school the next morning, surely parents feel sorry. Not to mention if the child conflicts with friends or has personal problems that we know. The desire to directly intervene and solve all of the child's problems is indeed so great, but this needs to be controlled. In fact, those difficult moments will build the child's mental resilience. The assistance we provide to children can sometimes hinder their ability to find solutions.

"Often as parents, because we love our children so much, without realizing it, we don't want our children to feel sad or have difficulties. This makes us always go the extra mile to help our children in every challenge they face," said Audrey Susanto, a family psychologist.

When a child is faced with a difficult situation, they will learn a lot of things. Such as negotiating, finding ways to meet people who can help them, and looking for other solutions that might not have been thought of by their parents.

Not meaning that parents cannot give assistance at all, but only to a reasonable extent. If it is felt that the child can still handle it on their own, let them first face their own problems.

Do not let the help we provide make the child lack the ability of problem solving that is greatly needed when they grow up. "Is always helping the child right? It depends, but if we always help the child and do not give them a chance to solve their own problems, always protect the child from pain and difficulties, be careful, this behavior may actually make it difficult for the child in the future," Audrey said.

"For parents who tend to always want to help their children and solve all their problems, according to Audrey, this is known as helicopter parenting in psychology."

The characteristic is prioritizing the parents' wishes without considering the child's desires, doing and organizing everything for the child, afraid that the child will have difficulties in school and friendships.

That certainly has a significant impact on a child's psychological development. For example, the child becomes easily anxious and has difficulty adapting, as well as tending to be dependent. "Always in need of assistance, afraid of failure, not accustomed to seeking alternative solutions, vulnerable to depression, and struggles with emotional regulation without parental support," said Audrey.

To start now, control yourself when you want to solve children's problems. First, observe the child's ability to solve their own problems. If it is felt that they are capable of doing so even though they seem overwhelmed, just let them be. Parents only need to provide necessary assistance. Children indeed need to be challenged by difficulties to shape a stronger personality. Source: IG @audreytsusanto.Dream.co.id is available on the WhatsApp Channel, follow to get the latest information on this link https://bit.ly/DreamcoidWAChannel

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