Dads Also Experience Baby Blues but Tend to Hide It

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Father Turns Out to Also Experience Baby Blues but Tends to Hide

Dads Also Experience Baby Blues but Tend to Hide It

Dream - Drastic changes experienced by a mother after giving birth sometimes can be overwhelming. It's not only the physical changes, but also hormones, psychological, responsibilities, and priorities in life.

That can be a triggering factor for a mother to experience baby blues. Baby blues is a mental health disorder experienced by mothers after giving birth, sometimes feeling sad, helpless, and struggling to accept the presence of the baby.

Many do not know that baby blues are actually not only experienced by mothers, but fathers also feel it. Stress, anxiety, full of worries and concerns are also felt by fathers when their baby is born into the world. With these conditions, apparently fathers are very good at hiding it. Dr. Elvine G., a mental health specialist, explains that baby blues in fathers tend to go undiagnosed.

"Baby blues itu ternyata bukan ibu aja. Bapak-bapak juga sama mengalami baby blues tapi tidak pernah terdiagnosis. Kenapa? Karena ada toksik maskulinitas," kata dr. Elvine." "Baby blues is not only experienced by mothers. Fathers also experience baby blues but are never diagnosed. Why? Because there is toxic masculinity," said Dr. Elvine."

Toxic masculinity assumes that men should not appear weak, especially in front of their wives and children. In fact, these fathers are also stressed and confused when entering their new roles. Especially when their responsibilities increase.

"Actually, if an examination is conducted, it turns out that these fathers also experience stress after having children. Because the bills from mothers never stop, right?" said Dr. Elvine.

New responsibilities arise that sometimes make fathers worried whether they can fulfill them well or not. "After having children, life is not necessarily better, right? It actually adds stress, right? Because the cost of milk increases, the cost of diapers appears," added Dr. Elvine. Fathers can also experience increased stress and baby blues if their wives are perfectionists in parenting.

The challenge is indeed complex when becoming a parent, for that it requires togetherness and sharing of tasks in terms of parenting.

"Participating in Montessori classes, attending parenting classes, which are also not cheap. That becomes another challenge," expressed by Dr. Elvine. So it turns out that fathers also experience extraordinary anxiety, but they tend to keep it to themselves. The symptoms experienced are similar to the baby blues experienced by mothers. Report by Aykaputri Amalia Rahmani/ Source: IG @elv_gun""

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